Things You Learn Cleaning Out Your Closet

I recently moved from New York, where I had been living for a little over ten years, to Los Angeles, where I once cried on a bus. Moving is always a series of small nightmares adding up to one large one, and moving cross-country more so. A large part of that nightmare involves going through the contents of one’s closet to see what sort of horrors and memories can be effectively cut from one’s life and passed on to Goodwill or Beacon’s Closet or a burning pyre.

Given that New York City is the place where I became an adult, moving from my teen years to something like adulthood, I had amassed a collection of clothes that I had once found appealing but had come to view as embarrassing, repulsive, ridiculous or sad. Chances are, you have — or had — some similar tokens of a past life laying at the back of a drawer, or somewhere in a wardrobe, collecting dust and memories. Let’s shake them out and give them away.

A Gift and a Curse

My mother spoils me. Every time she goes to TJ Maxx or Marshall’s or Target, she’ll see something she likes for me, and will send it my way. She is too good to me, my mom, a veritable saint. And I love her for it. But sometimes the things she sends are polyester palazzo pants, two sizes too large and six inches too long, with a design reminiscent of that rainbow-colored sand art so favored by camp counselors. So many colors. Colors I had never known existed, all laid out in striation against one another, like a multi-car pileup. Kind of like the ones on the left here.

I kept these pants in a drawer, and tried not to look at them. For months. For years. I moved these, and similar items, from place to place, like Sisyphus moving a rock his mother had sent him from Home Goods. But with the move, we parted, the young woman at Beacon’s Closet carefully avoiding eye contact as she gently pushed them away.

The Lesson: Guilt does not a good wardrobe make, and my mother will never learn my pants size.