Not Your Negroni: How a Mississippi Drink Menu Shook Up a City’s Deep Race Tensions
“Never let a white man know how much you really do know about anything except hard work,” John Dabney once said to his son, Wendell. Dabney was born a slave in 1824 and employed out to a railroad restaurant by Cora Williamson DeJarnette, a widow who lived off his wages for several decades. Dabney became known among prominent whites in Richmond, Virginia, for his hailstorm mint juleps and turtle soup.
At the outset of the Civil War, with years of saved tips and help from white acquaintances, Dabney negotiated the purchase of his freedom and that of his wife, who was at risk of being sold after owners complained she was doting too much over her newborn son. While nearly finished making payments toward a total purchasing price of $2,000, the 1863 Emancipation Proclamation set Dabney and his wife free. In 1865, he opened the doors to his own saloon named Dabney’s House.
Dabney was one of the three black bartenders honored at a bar named Saint Leo in Oxford, Mississippi, on this past February’s Black History Month cocktails menu created by bartender and manager Joseph Stinchcomb, a black man. Another is Tom Bullock, the author of the first cocktail book in 1917, called The Ideal Bartender. Bartender Clyde Goolsby, the once-owner of Prince Albert Lounge at the Holiday Inn in Oxford, appears, too.
Yet it wasn’t “The Clyde” nor “Bullock and Dabney” that caused a firestorm on social media that month among both white and black Oxfordians, leading to multiple local meetings, a public apology, the menu being pulled altogether, and an open reckoning on identity and history in a town that’s had more than its share of racial tension and violence.
On the night of February 10, a white patron of the restaurant took to Instagram to extol another drink on the menu, “Blood of the Leaves,” a famous line from the anti-lynching song “Strange Fruit.” “Beautiful and bright with a mint sprig,” the patron wrote. “Chilling in all kinds of ways.”
That post has since been deleted and the commenter has offered an apology. But the post went viral, and it was how I first learned of Joe’s drink menu, which also included “Black Wall Street,” and “(I’m Not Your) Negroni.”
Many Oxfordians expressed concern that the menu needed more context. “If you’re going to market ‘something new’, you better warn people first or at the very least have a disclaimer,” Regina Pitts responded on Saint Leo’s Facebook apology, wherein the owner, Emily Blount, said it was “neither of our intention to demean, trivialize, upset or offend.” For some unnerved black people living in a town where confederate symbols still reign as a threatening reminder of white supremacy’s monstrous iniquities, such a tribute seemed careless and insensitive. “I can’t imagine ordering a drink using a phrase from a song about lynching, and I can’t understand why anyone would think that was a suitable name for a drink,” Colleen Thorndike replied on the same Facebook post.
Others, especially those who knew Joe, felt the educational message behind the drinks meant more than the black anguish the menu items triggered. Critiques were disregarded as unfounded attacks on Joe’s artistic brilliance. Denver Bridwill, a white line cook at Saint Leo, posted on Facebook above a framed photo of the menu: “Is it art now that it’s in a frame, or is my dear friend’s past year of research, artistry, and self-discovery still a series of uncomfortable words that you reject as legitimate nor appropriate?”
Soon enough, like most heated discussions on social media, the conversation descended into name-calling. Those who criticized the menu were called idiots and snowflakes who refused to see the menu as decorative, well-thought out elixirs. In return, Joe was called an Uncle Tom, and his blackness was called into question.
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