'I Love Dick' is already a revolution in just one episode
Women talk about men—the ones they work with, the ones they see, the ones they want to sleep with. They talk about them in bars and on sidewalks and on couches in small cramped apartments. More than a discussion, the way women talk about people they want to sleep with is a dissection. It’s always been this way for some of us, since childhood slumber parties and passed high school notes.
What did he say? But how did he say it? Did he text you before or after you saw him standing across the subway platform? At what time?
There’s a whole episode of Sex and The City late in the series where the women are told that this is not normal by one of Carrie’s less-favorable boyfriends. He insists that if a man wants to be with you he’ll come upstairs, or he’ll call. That this whole loving game is so much simpler than women make it out to be. Men love to tell women this—that their obsession, their conversations upon conversations over a single wink across a crowded party that no one even cared about is preposterous. That the pursuit of truth, men dictate down, won’t change anything about how a man feels.
Maybe what men don’t realize is that sometimes those weeks of obsession, the moment in the night where you wake up and realize that maybe his hand did linger a little longer on your left shoulder when you brushed past him, is better than any love affair that man could possible give you.
There’s a scene near the end of Jill Soloway’s television show pilot I Love Dick, which premiered on Amazon last Friday, where the protagonist Chris (Kathryn Hahn) reconstructs a truly terrible dinner in her own mind. Soloway shows her replay of events cast in both a literal and metaphorical rose colored light. Earlier in the night, Chris and her older husband Sylvere (Griffin Dunne) went out to dinner with Dick (Kevin Bacon), the founder of Sylvere’s writing fellowship program in Marfa, Texas. There is rabbit on the menu. There is misogyny in the air. Chris’s film has been rejected from a Venice film festival by her own fault—she refused to rescore the film after receiving a cease and desist letter from a band—and she is grieving. Dick has very little sympathy for her. In fact, he has outright antipathy, but by the time Chris falls asleep that night, the story has changed.
When Sylvere finds her in the living room in the middle of the night writing, she’s performing the kind of analysis women normally confine to their thoughts or their conversations with friends onto the computer screen in the form of a letter to Dick.
“Dear Dick,” she begins her first letter, “I never understood how one chance meeting could alter the course of events in someone’s life. I’ve met charismatic people before. I’ve been warmed by their glow. I never had someone shatter in one glance the persona that I have spent decades constructing.”
This dinner is the beginning of a long obsession. The dinner is not the story. The obsession is the story, the thread that will tie every piece of this long love story, if you can call it that, together.
As she reads, the screen flashes images of the night from different angles. We see his hand linger on the chair he pulls out for her a little too long. We see a flourish to his wrist as he refills her wine. We see that eye contact. Is it real? Did those moments happen in the first scene and we were just too wrapped up in the conversation, too distracted by our omniscient angle to observe them? Or did Chris make them up? In the end, does it matter?